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Wedding Questions &
Answers
Q: What are your wedding
officiating
honorariums
?
A:
Honorariums are customarily $200.00 to $250.00 for a
simple
wedding
.
Formal
weddings, which is a church, hall, or weddings
that require me to wear a tie, the customary honorarium is
$300.00 to
$400.00.
The honorarium for a vow renewal
ceremony
is
customarily $200.00.
Q: What is
a "simple
wedding"?
A: A
wedding were I wear a nice shirt and black slacks, but not a
tie or coat. I really don't like wearing ties and coats.
 A simple wedding may be a
beach wedding, a home wedding, a garden wedding, even a hall
wedding, as long as I do not have to wear a tie and
coat.
A simple wedding may
include a sand ceremony, a unity candle ceremony, a stone
throwing ceremony, as long as I don't have to wear a tie and
coat.
A
simple wedding may be just the two of you or a big
procession of bridesmaids and groomsmen, as long as I don't
have to wear a tie and coat.
I
wear the same color scheme unless you want to request that I
wear my usual parrot head beach shirt and shorts. Otherwise,
I will wear black slacks and a creme color beach shirt, as
in the phot above. This color scheme fits good with bridal
parties that are dressed down or in formal tux and
dresses.
Q: What is
a "formal
wedding"?
A:
A wedding were you want me to wear a tie and coat. I
really do not like wearing a tie and a suit coat. In fact,
If you want me to wear
a tie and coat, we will have to talk hazardous
pay:
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Q: What are your
pre-marital coaching
fees
?
A: Again,
an honorarium, which has generally been $50.00 - $75.00 for
an hour and a half of time in-person or over the phone. (I
should note that I offer the pre-marital coaching service
even if I do not officiate the
wedding.)
Q: Do you require a
deposit
?
A: No.I
do not require any deposits, but I do ask that I
am presented with the honorarium and the
marriage license immediately before the ceremony. (I
use to not require this, but after being left
waiting nearly 2 hours after one ceremony to
finally get the license and honorarium, it seems that I
best mention
it.)
Q: Do you file the
marriage license
afterwards?
A: The county clerks ask
that the officiating minister return the marriage license.
Then, in about one week, you will recieve the official
verified marriage license in the mail from the county
clerk.
Q: What area of the
beach are we allowed
to use for our
wedding?
A: All public areas of the
beach are available to be used for performing a wedding. If
you are staying at a beach side condo or hotel, you are
allowed to use those private areas of the
beach.
Q: What if we want to have our
own
vows
?
A: I have
standard modified traditional vows or will welcome
the use of your own personalized vows. That is your personal
choice.
Q: What is is your
ceremony
like?
A: Please
visit my Ceremony Overview page to get an
idea of the flow of the cereminy. I have added other
features at the request of couples, such as special music,
poems, scripture readings, unity candles, sand ceremony,
stone throwing, some unique ethnic features, children
inclusions, prayer of blended families, and various other
things. But the Ceremony Overview page will
at least give you an
idea.
Q: Do you require
pre-marital counseling
?
A: No. My
pre-marital counseling services are optional and offered
separate according to relationship challenges. If you are
interested, I offer you both a Love
Language assesment test which help you understand
how to best love your mate after the wedding. This is
something that can mail to you and when you both have
completed it you mail it back or bring it with you for the
wedding. I can also give to you to take with you on your
honeymoon and you can mail it back to me at a later
date.
Q: Can we meet you in
advance ,
even if we are not interested in pre-marital
coaching?
A: Yes. If you are near or in
Mobile, Alabama. Just know that the beach is about an hour
and half drive for me. So it is the equivalent of a half
days' work for me. We certianly can talk over the phone as
often as you may have
questions.
Q: What about
attending the wedding
rehearsal?
A: Scheduling is
the biggest challenge for me when it comes to wedding
rehearsals. Often times I have a wedding scheduled, an event
schedule, or family plans. If I can't make your wedding
rehearsal, I will gladly be available by phone to answer any
questions or to point out the issues that would involve me
at the rehearsal. During the ceremony I will coach the couple
along in the ceremony, but here are some issues to think
about:
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Bride's entrance. If someone is
walking the bride down, I just need to know if they want
or are willing for me to say "Who gives this bride away."
And if someone is walking down the bride, they need to
know to stop about 6 to 10 feet before more, in order to
give the groom enough walking space to actually go and get
his bride.
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Vows. If there is no preference,
the majority of couples go with traditional vows with the bride
and groom merely answer "I do." But you can write your own
or have the "Dr. Seuss
Vows."
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Vows. Also, you both will need
to decide how you want to stand during the vows. You can
remain standing facing the minister, turn to face each
other, or slight turn toward each other but yet still
toward the minister. Also, will you hold hands during the
vows?
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Exit. After the minister
pronounces you husband and wife and introduces you both as
such, you will just need to know where or if you are going
to exit or have friends and family come up to greet you in
the front or or in the
back.
Q: What are the Alabama laws
for license, etc?
A: Click on this
link: www.usmarriagelaws.com
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