Rev. Steve Durkac

     

Wedding Questions & Answers 

 

Q: What are your wedding officiating honorariums ?

A:   Honorariums are customarily $200.00 to $250.00 for a simple wedding .

Formal weddings, which is a church, hall, or weddings that require me to wear a tie, the customary honorarium is $300.00 to $400.00.

The honorarium for a vow renewal ceremony is customarily $200.00.

 

Q: What is a "simple wedding"?

A: A wedding were I wear a nice shirt and black slacks, but not a tie or coat. I really don't like wearing ties and coats.

A simple wedding may be a beach wedding, a home wedding, a garden wedding, even a hall wedding, as long as I do not have to wear a tie and coat.

A simple wedding may include a sand ceremony, a unity candle ceremony, a stone throwing ceremony, as long as I don't have to wear a tie and coat.

A simple wedding may be just the two of you or a big procession of bridesmaids and groomsmen, as long as I don't have to wear a tie and coat.

I wear the same color scheme unless you want to request that I wear my usual parrot head beach shirt and shorts. Otherwise, I will wear black slacks and a creme color beach shirt, as in the phot above. This color scheme fits good with bridal parties that are dressed down or in formal tux and dresses. 

 

Q: What is a "formal wedding"?

A:  A wedding were you want me to wear a tie and coat. I really do not like wearing a tie and a suit coat. In fact, If you want me to wear a tie and coat, we will have to talk hazardous pay:

   

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Q: What are your pre-marital coaching fees ?

A: Again, an honorarium, which has generally been $50.00 - $75.00 for an hour and a half of time in-person or over the phone. (I should note that I offer the pre-marital coaching service even if I do not officiate the wedding.) 

 

Q: Do you require a deposit ?

A: No.I do not require any deposits, but I do ask that I am   presented with the honorarium and the marriage license immediately before the ceremony. (I use to not require this, but after being left waiting nearly 2 hours after one ceremony to finally get the license and honorarium, it seems that I best mention it.)

 

Q: Do you file the marriage license afterwards?

A: The county clerks ask that the officiating minister return the marriage license. Then, in about one week, you will recieve the official verified marriage license in the mail from the county clerk. 

 

Q: What area of the beach are we allowed to use for our wedding?

A: All public areas of the beach are available to be used for performing a wedding. If you are staying at a beach side condo or hotel, you are allowed to use those private areas of the beach.

 

Q: What if we want to have our own vows ?

A: I have standard modified traditional vows or will welcome the use of your own personalized vows. That is your personal choice.

 

Q: What is is your ceremony like?

A: Please visit my Ceremony Overview page to get an idea of the flow of the cereminy. I have added other features at the request of couples, such as special music, poems, scripture readings, unity candles, sand ceremony, stone throwing, some unique ethnic features, children inclusions, prayer of blended families, and various other things. But the Ceremony Overview page will at least give you an idea.

   

Q: Do you require pre-marital counseling ?

A: No. My pre-marital counseling services are optional and offered separate according to relationship challenges. If you are interested, I offer you both a Love Language assesment test which help you understand how to best love your mate after the wedding. This is something that can mail to you and when you both have completed it you mail it back or bring it with you for the wedding. I can also give to you to take with you on your honeymoon and you can mail it back to me at a later date.

 

Q: Can we meet you in advance , even if we are not interested in pre-marital coaching?

A: Yes. If you are near or in Mobile, Alabama. Just know that the beach is about an hour and half drive for me. So it is the equivalent of a half days' work for me. We certianly can talk over the phone as often as you may have questions.

 

Q: What about attending the wedding rehearsal?

A: Scheduling is the biggest challenge for me when it comes to wedding rehearsals. Often times I have a wedding scheduled, an event schedule, or family plans. If I can't make your wedding rehearsal, I will gladly be available by phone to answer any questions or to point out the issues that would involve me at the rehearsal. During the ceremony I will coach the couple along in the ceremony, but here are some issues to think about:

  • Bride's entrance. If someone is walking the bride down, I just need to know if they want or are willing for me to say "Who gives this bride away." And if someone is walking down the bride, they need to know to stop about 6 to 10 feet before more, in order to give the groom enough walking space to actually go and get his bride.
  • Vows. If there is no preference, the majority of couples go with traditional vows with the bride and groom merely answer "I do." But you can write your own or have the "Dr. Seuss Vows."
  • Vows. Also, you both will need to decide how you want to stand during the vows. You can remain standing facing the minister, turn to face each other, or slight turn toward each other but yet still toward the minister. Also, will you hold hands during the vows?
  • Exit. After the minister pronounces you husband and wife and introduces you both as such, you will just need to know where or if you are going to exit or have friends and family come up to greet you in the front or or in the back.

 

Q: What are the Alabama laws for license, etc?

A: Click on this link: www.usmarriagelaws.com

 

 

   

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